When you hear teenager you probably think rebellious, rude, obnoxious, etc because that’s how they get at that age right? Do you ever think of why they get that way? Teenagers face a lot when they get to a certain age. They feel different emotions, have experience at school, with friends, etc. They keep all of that inside and find other ways to get it out.
Despite the fact that teens have that “I don’t need you” attitude, parents shouldn’t just assume they’re alright. They should spend quality one on one time with their kids from time to time because teens are constantly looking for a secure ground to stand, and if parents don’t act as their “anchor”they will find it some where else.
As a teenager, there are things your parent talk to you about vs things you find out from the internet. There are things you would rather find out from friends who don’t know jack but think they do, rather than your parents. Now this might sound ridiculous, but there is a difference between being a teenager and being a teenager in a christian home.
I grew up thinking when a boy touches me, i’d get pregnant (thanks to my aunt Bose). Waking up early hours of the morning for prayers (which i absolutely hated but appreciate now lol), and not allowed to have male friends because my dad will have a fit. I love my dad to death, but he was too damn strict!
Now I have these feelings i don’t understand for a boy but I cannot talk to my parents about it because they are, permit me to say “too spiritual” I mean how do I even go about it? i don’t even have male friends! This was one of my experience growing up and being a teenager.
Imagine this day and age! There is more than just feelings for a boy. I mean things you find on the internet! There is pornography, peer pressure, substance abuse, you name it. How do they deal with all of these? Wanting to be part of the “cool kids” so they don’t eat lunch alone, vulnerable to so much peer pressure. Parents not wanting to have the “sex talk” and expect their teenagers wont have questions, that’s some fairy tale right there.
As a christian teenager, a lot is expected from you. You sorta know right from wrong, but you are expected to make all the right decisions, not get in trouble, have good grades, read the bible, have the best company of friends, etc.
My advice/thought to parents with teenagers is listen to them. When they are acting up they are actually trying to say something. Don’t start quoting the bible just have a normal conversation, make them feel comfortable to talk to you, be less judgmental with your comments but at the same time guide them through the right path make them know they can come to you rather than the internet or that know it all friend.
The bible states in Proverbs 22:6 , Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. That same bible says in Colossians 3:21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
I am not a parent, but i was once a teenager and as a teenager all I wanted was to be able to talk to my parent, share my thoughts, allow them explain things that made me curious, not being scared but feeling like I could talk to them about anything because most of the time that was what I wanted.
I don’t want it to look like I am starting to rant so I will stop here. Drop your comments and thoughts below Ciao!