NEW MUSIC: ISIOMA – ”WHY” (+ LYRICS)

Femcee Isioma is out with yet another single titled “Why”. The lyrics push the idea that we must celebrate God in every season – no limits -because the Almighty is always there to impact us in times of happiness or even sadness.

This song is Produced by DonL37, an Executive Music Producer with Lamp House and Chocolate City.

If you are a lover of Rap and Hip-hop you’ll enjoy this.

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”WHY” LYRICS

INTRO: AHH.. (2X) ISIOMA,
DONL37

CHORUS:

YOU DON’T KNOW WHY
I DO WHAT I DO
MMH UHN UHN
MMH MMH UHN UHN
JESUS IS THE REASON
FOR THE SEASON
THAT’S WHY I DO AHH
I DO WHAT I DO (2X)UH

VERSE 1:

WHEN I WAKE UP IN THE MORNING TIME

(ECHO: EVERY TIME WHEN I WAKE UP IN THE MORNING)

COULDN’T SLEEP COS OF THOUGHTS THAT FLOOD MY MIND

(ECHO: ALL THESE THINGS THEY BE DISTURBING MY MIND REAL HARD)

THOUGHTS OF WHAT THE LORD HAS DONE IN MY LIFE
HE TURNED ME AROUND
GAVE ME A NEW SOUND
I CAN’T HELP BUT TO CALL HIS NAME
COS HE HELPED ME DISPOSE ALL SHAME
SOME CHASE AFTER ALL THAT’S VAIN
BUT FOR ME I’LL SERVE JESUS AGAIN AND AGAIN
THE ONE WHO DOESN’T SERVE HIM
WILL HAVE HIMSELF TO BLAME
IN JESUS NAME IS CONTAINED ALL GAIN
HE’S MY LORD AND MY FRIEND
WHEN I’M WEAK HE DEFENDS
HE WAS WHIPPED AND DESPISED
AND WAS SPAT ON BY MEN 
SO THAT EVERYTHING GO BLEND BOTH FOR ME AND MY FRIENDS
I GO CONTINUE TO HAIL AM
I NO GO EVER REST!

CHORUS…

VERSE 2:

WHAT REALLY IS THE AIM OF MY CLAIM
MMH UHN UHN
MMH MMH UHN 
HIS LOVE FOR ME MAKES ME EXCLAIM
MMH UHN UHN
MMH MMH UHN 
YOU FIND OUT 
THAT I’M HARD TO TAME
THERE’S NO SHAME IN MY GAME
I WILL PROCLAIM HIS NAME
WITH HIS WORD IN MY HEART
I WILL HEAL THE LAME
AND THE ONE THAT IS MAIM AHH
I DARE NOT DEFAME THE SON OF MAN
FOR JUST MERE ME HE OVERCAME
I’M A DAME FULL OF FLAME
I RECLAIM AND ACCLAIM MY SURNAME 
AND JESUS’S THE SAME I CANNOT MISNAME THE LAMB TO THE SLAUGHTER, 
FOR ME HE BECAME
AHH I CANNOT MISNAME 
THE LAMB TO THE SLAUGHTER 
FOR ME HE BECAME !

CHORUS…

BRIDGE:

AHH…

PROVIDER, PROTECTOR, PROMOTER THAT’S YOU (EH OH)
DELIVERER, MY DEFENDER, MY REDEEMER THAT’S YOU(EH OH)
MY FATHER, MY SAVIOUR, MY LOVER THAT’S YOU (EH OH)
MY HEALER, MY KEEPER, UPLIFTER THAT’S YOU(EH OH)
LETS GO!

REPEAT CHORUS WITH
MULTIPLE ECHO’S TILL FADE: EH OH…
I DO WHAT I DO(2X) ALL BECAUSE OF YOU…
I DO WHAT I DO,ALL BECAUSE OF YOU…(4X)

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Why ‘Ordinary Time’ is Most Extraordinary for God’s Work – James Tonkowich

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During our New Years visit to see our son and his family, our grandson asked his mom if he could “open the door” when we got home from church. “Open the front door? Sure you can,” she replied. That’s not what he had in mind. He wanted to open “a little door” like the other little doors he opened in his Advent calendar. “Not till next year,” he was told.

 

Christmas is over and as a friend likes to say, “Ain’t nothin’ as over as Christmas.”

 

We waited again with Israel of old for the promised Messiah. We marveled at the angel’s announcement to Mary and held our breath until we heard her say, “Be it done to me according to your word,” assuring our salvation. We fretted with Joseph about what to do with pregnant Mary until he too heard the words of an angel. We went on the wearying journey from Nazareth to Bethlehem with Mary about to deliver only to hear, “No room at the inn” and plop down in the stable. We rejoiced at the birth of Jesus with the angels and shepherds and saw with Simeon the “light to give light to the Gentiles and the glory of… Israel.” We waited as the Magi made their way by the light of the star, worshipped the baby king, and went home by another way.

That is, we’ve relived the who, what, when, where, why, and how of our faith. (Or at least a big chunk of it. We’ll relive the rest from Lent to Pentecost.) Now we begin what liturgists call “Ordinary Time.”

 

The late Richard John Neuhaus objected to the phrase “Ordinary Time” since, he wrote, for the Christian “no time is ordinary.” And, while I agree at some level, on another level I believe (and I’m sure Fr. Neuhaus believed) that it is precisely in the midst of our ordinary that God works his extraordinary. That’s because it’s during Ordinary Time that we answer the question, “So what?” What difference do the facts of the incarnation, suffering, death, and resurrection of Jesus make in the ordinary, daily grind at home, in the office, at school, in the supermarket, at the airport, in the kitchen, at the gym?

 

Brother Lawrence (1614-1691) had an answer. He entered the monastery knowing that he hated kitchen work, but no one seems to have asked his opinion. When he received his work assignment, he found himself fixing meals and washing the pots and pans on permanent KP. Over time, the ordinary and endless cycle of meal preparation and clean up took on an extraordinary dimension. “The time of business,” he said in The Practice of the Presence of God, “does not with me differ from the time of prayer, and in the noise and clatter of my kitchen, while several persons are at the same time calling for different things, I possess God in as great tranquility as if I were upon my knees at the blessed sacrament,” that is, as if at worship.

 

2015 will, I believe, be a troubled and troubling year. Religious liberty will continue to be eroded by the press toward greater and greater sexual license and the accompanying demand for affirmation in our schools, corporations, public life, and even our churches. The murderous attack on employees of the magazine Charlie Hebdo in Paris last week is a reminder that radical Islam is alive and well across the West as it is across the Middle East, Africa, and Asia. And the cyber attack and blackmail perpetrated on Sony last month make it clear that our hyper-connected, technological wonderland may be our worst nightmare. We live in a very dangerous world and many will willingly hand over freedom in exchange for hypothetical safety.

 

Confronted with this, I keep coming back to the words of Fr. George Rutler who wrote in his book A Crisis of Saints: The Call to Heroic Faith in an Unheroic World, “All I really have to say about this is that each turning point in history is a test of holiness, and the saints make the big difference in the world’s fortunes. As a corollary to this, since holiness is marked by heroic virtue, the real danger to society is not merely a lack of virtue, but lack of heroism.”

 

What can ordinary people do during ordinary time about the dangers before us? If the events of Christmas time and Easter time are true and we take God at his word and act by faith, the answer will be deeds that are extraordinary, even heroic.

 

 

Jim Tonkowich is a writer, commentator, and speaker focusing on the role of religion in our public life. His new book, The Liberty Threat: The Attack on Religious Freedom in America Today is available from St. Benedict Press and other online retailers.

‘Baby’ Versus ‘Fetus’: Why Terminology Matters – Rob Schwarzwalder

 

“Jurors in stolen unborn baby trial won’t hear about cause of death.”

 

This is the headline of the Associated Press story carried on the website of the NBC affiliate television station (KXAN) in Austin, Texas.

 

It’s about a woman named Dynel Lane, who slit open the womb of Michelle Wilkins and removed her unborn baby girl.  The baby died shortly thereafter.  According to the AP, “Lane is charged with attempted first-degree murder, assault and unlawful termination of a pregnancy in the March 2015 attack on Michelle Wilkins in Longmont (Colorado).”

Here’s the moral irony: “District Attorney Stan Garnett said earlier that prosecutors couldn’t charge Lane in the baby’s death because a coroner found no evidence the fetus lived outside the womb. That angered conservatives in the Colorado Legislature, who had previously tried but failed to enact a law making it a crime to kill a fetus. Colorado’s law against unlawful termination of a pregnancy was a compromise that stemmed from earlier debates on the issue.”

 

It’s a “fetus” until removed from the womb, right?  No: She was a baby whether in or out of the womb.  The only thing that changed was where she lived.  For the first eight months of her life, the baby lived inside her mother.  For a few hours, she lived outside of her mother’s womb.

 

Yet even the AP or NBC headline writer couldn’t admit to the ridiculous terminological gymnastics demanded by a society whose unwillingness to acknowledge the personhood of unborn children requires it to retain the embarrassing legal fiction known as the “fetus.”

 

The writer of the headline called the child what she was: A baby.

 

Why do advocates of abortion on-demand insist on using this obscure, dehumanizing term (“fetus”)?  Because if they acknowledge the personhood of the unborn child, suddenly the unavoidable reality of what abortion is – the killing of a tiny child at his or her most vulnerable stage of existence – roars into full view.  And that they must bypass at all costs, stepping around “baby” like it is a rhetorical and, more importantly, a moral landmine for their cause.  Which, of course, it is.

 

For all their professed care for women, the predatory abortion industry has a sordid record.  As FRC recently document with our allies at the American Center for Law and Justice in a Supreme Court legal brief, “No one expects to see an ambulance pulling away from a dermatology or dental office. Yet ambulances are a frequent sight at abortion facilities.”

 

But there has been good news over the past few days concerning babies (unborn, that is) in Wisconsin and Ohio:

 

“(Wisconsin) Gov. Scott Walker signed two bills Thursday (February 18) that cut by several million dollars a year the amount of public money that goes to Planned Parenthood of Wisconsin … One bill restricts how much Planned Parenthood can be reimbursed for prescription drugs, stripping it of an estimated $4 million a year, according to Planned Parenthood. A second measure is expected to cut another $3.5 million in government payments to Planned Parenthood because it provides abortions.”

 

Of note is that Walker signed the measures publically at a local pregnancy care center, one that provides life-affirming options for women and their unborn children.

 

Ohio Gov. John Kasich also “signed legislation Sunday (February 21) to strip government money from Planned Parenthood in Ohio.”  However, unlike Walker, “The governor did not sign the bill in public. His office made the announcement in a statement.”

 

At least, though, Kasich did sign the measure.  According to LifeNews.com, “Planned Parenthood runs three abortion centers in the state and every Planned Parenthood clinic refers women for abortions.”

 

This comes after Ohio Attorney General and former U.S. Senator Mike DeWinefound, in December of last year, that “Fetal remains from three Planned Parenthood facilities in Ohio were sent to companies that then disposed of them in landfills in violation of state administrative rules.”  Quoted in Reuters, DeWine said at the time, “Disposing of aborted fetuses from an abortion by sending them to a landfill is callous and completely inhumane. It is important the public be aware that these practices are taking place at these Ohio facilities.”

 

Parents.com features a wonderful site called, “What My Baby Looks Like.”  In it, all 40 weeks of an unborn child’s development are portrayed and described.

 

And the site says, as plain as day, “What My Baby” – not “Fetus” – “Looks Like.”

Imagine that.

 

 

To learn more about Planned Parenthood’s notorious abortion business and its ongoing harvesting of baby body parts, read the important new study, “Investigating Planned Parenthood and Research Using Aborted Babies,” by the Director of FRC’s Center for Human Dignity, Arina Grossu.

Why Christians Shouldn’t Listen to Secular Music – JaySmoke

There obviously has been a cold debate on this. Some gospel artistes say they listen to secular music to get a well rounded sound. Some  ‘çhristians’ say there really isn’t nothing wrong with listening to secular music.
Well, is that really true? Our guest blogger digs into the issue and brings insights that will sure educate you on this.
Is music just music or is there more to it? You sure need to find out right here and right now. We brought this out to the CiTy for you and yours…

Why Christians shouldn’t listen to Secular Music by @JaySmoke

Music Music Music…many of us, in fact very few people can live without it!Music is everywhere…from politics to sports…you will find an element of music being played! We simply cannot live without music! Am sure everyone of us right now has
some form of music on our cellphones or mp3 players! Music is good but since we live in a perverted world, everything good has been turned into evil! The same music that is used to worship and praise God has been turned into something use to promote sex, lust, and everything contrary to God’s word!

Many people would argue the fact that Christians can listen to secular music.

Secular music is any kind of music that isn’t Christian! I personally believe that listening to secular music isn’t healthy at all and should be avoided by Christians! Why?? Lemme give you an illustration…let’s say you take a bunch of frogs and you put them in a pot filled with water…What will happen? They will swim around and get comfortable right??? Now take that bowl and put it on the stove and gradually increase the temperature…the frogs will not notice the change and will simple try to adjust to the heat…now turn up the temperature again and they will continue to accommodate it before u know it, the frogs will all be cooked and dead!

 And thats what happens to our spirit man, when we continue to listen to these music. Gradually with time, you slowly begin to kill your spiritman and your prayer life starts declining, you start thinking differently, you start doing stuffs that you shouldn’t be doing as a believer. Basically, whatever we take in whether it be what we listen, watch, or even read, affects how we live our lives whether we want to believe/accept it or not. A lot of secular music sounds great…I give you that, but why are they great? God knows music, but so does Satan. Before he fell he was the absolute definition of music in heaven, He knows what he’s doing. So it’s only natural that music would be one of His most powerful tools that he will use to lure souls away from God.
So the question now is…how does it affect us as Christians? Well secular music affects our Christian lives from following God, because of its contents, no matter what kind of music, whether it is love song, hiphop, reggae, rnb, etc., These kind of music are “very deceiving” and have “rebel lyrics”, “breakup relationships” and stuff, because all of its contents focus on the “world”, and not to “God”.
 
Take for example a secular song about ‘peace’. Even though it’s content seems good and talking about peace for the world etc…it’s focus is not on the peace that you get from God. It’s telling you that we can have peace on earth without God.
So you as a Christian will listen to it and gradually, you start thinking that way. Another example would be a love song…they prolly telling you to treat her special and all but this “special way” is focused on the world. Take her out, goto the club, buy her expensive gifts, take her shopping, make love to her which are all nice but they are not God-focused.
A christian love song would prolly teach you to pray with her, go to church with her, love her the way Jesus loves the church etc.
You have to ask yourself this question when listening to a secular song…are the lyrics focused on sinful things? Is there swearing in the song? Would you feel comfortable listening to it if Jesus was sitting next to you? We are told in (1 Cor 10:31) to do all things to the glory of God. If we are listening to music that goes against God given Biblical guidelines, He certainly isn’t glorified.Have you ever found yourself singing and humming the songs to which you have recently been listening to, as you go through your day? If we are listening to songs that glorify and encourage sinful things, or have swearing in them, we end up singing about these things during the day. On the other hand, if we are listening to music that glorifies the Lord, we will be singing and humming songs to glorify the Lord throughout our day. Wouldn’t you rather be repeating songs that glorify God?

Take a look at this survey about the top 10 tracks in the states, which was carried out some years back!

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1) Rihanna – “Unfaithful” 
“And I know that he knows I’m unfaithful, And it kills him inside, To know that I am happy with some other guy…”
2) Nelly Furtado – “Promiscuous” 
“Promiscuous Girl, Wherever you are, I’m all alone, And its you that I want… Promiscuous Boy, I’m calling your name, But you’re driving me crazy, The way you’re making me wait…”4) The Pussycat Dolls – “Buttons” 
“I’m telling you loosen up my buttons baby… I’m a sexy mama… Come on baby, loosen up my buttons babe, Loosen up my buttons babe, Baby, won’t you loosen up my buttons babe…”

5) Shakira – “Hips Don’t Lie” 
“You make a woman go mad, So be wise and keep on, Reading the signs of my body… You know my hips don’t lie… All the attraction, the tension… Oh boy, I can see your body moving… My will and self restraint, Have come to fail now, fail now…”
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Notice that half of the top ten songs are all about the promiscuous, unfaithful, ‘pick-me-up’ kind of sex, something that God does not condone. And there are many more songs just like these which are being played on our radios and tvs every minute! We can’t run away from them but we can stop ourselves from letting them into our hearts. How do we do it…you just turn a deaf ear to it.We may be attracted to a particular song because it has a great tune, the chorus is catchy, but if the message it portrays is not in line with what we as Christians believe, listening to it may alter our perception of right and wrong, away from what God dictated in His Word. We may, for example, think that promiscuity is cool because the music associated with qit is cool. Nowadays, it’s not a surprise to see kids in movies kissing and making love, smoking and doing drugs…now if you are not strong spiritually and you see or hear such stuffs…you may end up thinking it’s cool and you have to do it to be cool.

If you really want to listen to secular music, the content of the lyrics must be considered. While not specifically speaking of music, Philippians 4:8 is an excellent guide for musical lyrics: “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” If we should be thinking about such things, surely those are the things we should invite into our minds through music and lyrics.

 However, much of secular music does not meet the standard of Philippians 4:8. Secular music often promotes immorality and violence while belittling purity and integrity. If a song glorifies what opposes God, a Christian should not listen to it. However, there are many secular songs with no mention of God that still uphold godly values such as honesty, purity, and integrity.
If a love song promotes the sanctity of marriage and/or the purity of true love—even if it does not mention God or the Bible—it can still be listened to and enjoyed. But the question I always ask is this…why would I want to listen to a good secular song by an artist who does another bad secular song???Whatever a person allows to occupy his mind will sooner or later determine his speech and his actions. This is the premise behind Philippians 4:8. Second Corinthians 10:5 says we should “take captive every thought and make it obedient to Christ.” These Scriptures give a clear picture of the kind of music we should not listen to.

Obviously, the best kind of music is that which praises and glorifies God. Talented Christian musicians work in nearly every musical genre, ranging from classical to rock, rap, and reggae. There is nothing inherently wrong with any particular style of music. It is the lyrics that determine whether a song is “acceptable” for a Christian to listen to. If anything leads you to think about or get involved in something that does not glorify God, it should be avoided.

Job said in (Job 31:1), “I made a covenant with mine eyes.” This is a great verse in the Bible. What Job was saying in the rest of this verse is that he did not want to look lustfully at a woman; however, this is something that we should carry over into all areas of our lives. We should make a covenant with our eyes not to look on ANYTHING that will cause us to sin or place bad images in our minds. This includes sinful t.v. shows or movies. I believe we would also be wise to make a covenant with our EARS not to listen to anything that speaks of sinful things or places bad images in our minds.

It is said that for every secular band, there is a Christian band that sounds similar. I have found for the most part, this is true. I used to be soooo into secular hiphop music myself! Not only hiphop…I was a diehard fan of r&b and it really got me doing things am not so proud of. And the funny thing is, at the time I was doing it, I felt that it was the right thing to do cause I hear it in the songs, watch it on tv and everybody was loving it. And I felt good but spiritually I was dying. So when I got serious with my spirit man, I had to stop listening to all the secular stuffs. But the challenge came when I had to find a SUITABLE replacement.
Here I was a crazy hiphop fan…and when I say hiphop, I mean the tupacs, snoop dog, 213, no limit, dog pound, warren g, xzibit etc and so finding a replacement was quite a challenge back then….but today, there are tooooons of good quality christian artists out there who are equally as dope as these secular cats. We have Christian hiphop, Christian r&b, Christian jazz, Christian reggae and even Christian hiplife. So we really don’t have any business listening to secular music when we have equally good christian alternatives.

Apart from that, we have lots of good christian radio stations….yeah I know that some of the songs they play are not your type since many of yall prolly love the latest musical trends…thats why I have my shows on radio…so that we can give you an alternative to what the local christian stations give yall. We play everything from reggae to hiplife so am sure there’ll be something there for everyone.

In concluding: Lemme ask all those who are currently listening to secular songs this question, how can you sing worship songs to God on sundays and then go home and listen to these destructive music? The bible speaks about God spitting out a Lukewarm person. You cannot listen to Godly music and then at the same time listen to secular profane music???
It just doesn’t work and God will spit you out. If you believe you have any form of secular songs with you, I want to encourage you to throw them all away now and repent. I pray you don’t fall victim to the devil’s deceptions.

Why Kenyan Ladies End Up Single For Life

1. Many Kenyan ladies will end up singles for life because of media exposure- it is so disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on a mobile phone from morning to night, only to raise it up to focus on television to watch another celebrity entertainment channel. Tell me, what else will dominate this lady’s mindset aside how to live a fake celebrity life being promoted on television channels?
 
2. Many Kenyan ladies now dislike cooking and home chores just because they had been totally brainwashed by movies showcasing men playing the role of women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to modern media that promotes gender-equality in a destructive way that’s aimed at destroying the unique African family setting that made our previous African marriages everlasting and envious to the westerns. Now, with this attitude, how do you expect a Kenyan man to desire to marry when he knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than helper for himself?

3.  Modern fashion and craze for gadgets is a great barrier to most ladies finding love and marriage. How do we explain a single lady whose only desire in life is to acquire the latest clothe in town, the latest mobile phone and pad to the detriment of her woman worth? How can a single lady maintain this lifestyle for long without bowing low to immoral lifestyle? How do you expect a man from a responsible family background, and who is in his right senses to propose marriage to a lady whose utmost desire and concern in life is to acquire costly electronic gadgets, clothes, jewelry, perfume, etc? Of course, majority of men would like to date such a trendy lady for fun and show-off, but wouldn’t want to propose marriage to such a lady even if she is earning the money herself because her expensive lifestyle already is a big turn off to most responsible serious-minded single men. Only men that are out to catch fun will be closely attracted to her, and her chances of getting a marriage proposal from them is as slim as a camel passing through the eye of a needle.

4.  Excessive makeup turns most decent and serious-minded men off- if you have observed, you will discover that most men dislike excessive makeup, and more don’t even like it at all; reason they often times discourage their true loved ones to do away with it cos it speaks ill of a lady even though so many men will applaud and complement you for looking like an Egyptian mummy. A slight makeup is okay; but if you are out for marriage, try always to look simple and natural, it will attract better men, decent and serious-minded, except you are still living in your high school life and not thinking towards marriage.
 
5.  Cut Down Your Participation in social network sites- if possible, close your facebook and twitter accounts because they may be doing you more harm than good, but you wouldn’t know until you hit 35yrs plus and still single and searching.  If you cannot maintain a sizeable number of vital friends and family members as friends on your facebook, twitter, etc accounts, then you need to close the account and focus with your offline life. No man would want to marry a lady who jumps from one social network site to another because it is a clear sign of an unfaithful lady or about to be unfaithful lady, yes, that’s how men view it. Who are you to have a thousand friends on facebook, same on twitter, maybe on wassap, 2go, twoo, BBM, badoo, eskimi, etc?

6.  Stop Giving Your Number Out To Every Dick & Harry! No man would want to propose marriage to a lady whose phone is always talking and laughing with unserious calls. You may not be a playgirl, but he would judge you as one, and will likely flee at the slightest chance or disagreement.

 
7.  You Don’t Bring Any Value Into The Life Of Men You Date or Are Dating- because your best friend married without contributing anything to the man that finally married her, doesn’t mean it will work for you that way. Think, work towards equipping yourself so that you can be a value and also add value to his life to convince him that you are worth committing to. Adding value to his life isn’t by giving him money, or material gifts, nope….good counsels, being his best friend, helping him attain his goals in life, lending him moral, mental and spiritual support, and by not just being a liability that only bring requests and problems to be solved.

8.  Your Friends Run Your Life- how do you expect to find a husband when you still allow your clique of friends to be dictating which man you meet is worthy of your love and which is not? When will you wake up and face the fact that those your best friends even though they cherish you, wouldn’t want you to marry before them or to marry the best man?

9.  You Move Around In Group- often times, you miss the advance of a good decent man when you move in group, be wise. Again, men don’t always fancy ladies that move around in group because most ladies can only be reasonable when you separate them from their group of friends.

10. You Give Everything Out During Dating- As a single lady who has not been taken to the altar, you need to reserve some things for your husband to be, especially your body, respect it and preserve it at all cost. In the past, men rushed to marry to get certain things or privileges they had been constantly denied while being single. Such privileges include and not limited to: constant sex and companionship, good food and tidied home, etc. But today, a single man gets even the best and of course more of constant sex, good food and excellent home-keeping more than his married counterparts, so tell me how the hell you want him to desire to marry you when you have given him virtually everything he desires from a wife while being his girlfriend? And the most painful part of it all is that he knows that you are prepared to cut down on sex supply, cooking, home-keeping, etc once he marries you, so why would he not want you to remain his girlfriend for life?

For instance, everywhere you go today, you hear majority of single ladies crying that they won’t be a cook for their husbands, that their husband must know how to cook and must be participating equally in cooking and home-keeping, that they cannot marry a man who cannot cook or keep the home clean and all of that, but these single ladies are doing these things happily for their boyfriends and perceived fiancés without complain, but they keep complaining that they won’t do it when they finally marry, and the single men are hearing all these.

Now, a particular single man has three to four girlfriends who comes and cook, clean the house for him happily, and they also supply him with constant sex even when he doesn’t ask, and he is aware that once he marries any of them, she would stop or reduce the rate at which she cooks for him and would want him to be participating in the cooking, say; 60-40% of the time, and he knows too that if he marries any of them, she would start to deny him sex whenever she deems fit in the name of ‘I’m not in the mood’ or ‘I’m exhausted at work or business’ etc, but she was never tired to do any of the aforementioned things while dating the man, so tell me sincerely, how do we expect single men of today to still desire to marry like their fathers and forefathers desired to marry, with all these shabby scenarios surrounding our today ladies?

11. You Package Yourself Wrongly- in your attempt to look sexy, adorable and maybe appealing to guys, you have derailed from appealing to appalling. In fact you look more whorish than modest; more distractive than attractive, and more disgusting than adorable. Your dressing style determines who gets attracted to you most times. If you dress high school, only high school-thinking guys will be attracted to you, and if you dress excessively sexy and provocative, only randy men will come to you for urgent satisfaction of their immediate sex urge, so don’t be fooled by media hyping of certain kinds of dressing, they are meant for certain set of ladies you wouldn’t like to be associated with, be careful. Remember, not all clothes that look sexy are good for a seriously searching for a soul mate single lady.

12. You Lack Manner, Character, Wisdom and Good Home Upbringing- definitely, your ‘hot girl’, ‘pretty girl’, ‘sexy girl’ looks will win you so many men; both the good, and the bad, but your inner beauty, your character and manner are the things that will determine whether any of those men would stay or run after accomplishing their evil missions. In order words, do away with nagging, being possessive, challenging with men in negative ways, the mentality of ‘what a man can do a woman can do better’, a lie devil has used to deceive and destroy so many ladies today, please do away with it.

13. You Are A Liability- in as much as we know that the present economy of Kenya and the world in general is harsh, men and society in general careless about how you react to this situation, how do I mean? Read on.

You are from a poor family background, and you have no job or you are earning below $1000 a month but you want to wear designer clothes, shoes, jewelry, perfume and also carry Prada and Gucci hand bags. You want to use the most expensive gadgets- mobile phones, pads, etc. you are from a poor family background, or average family, etc is not a justifiable reason for you to be depending on men for virtually everything you need in life. Show yourself some respect. And don’t think you can split your exorbitant expenses amongst different men, by dating different men so that you won’t be demanding from that one you truly love amongst them, so that he will be convinced that you are a good girl who doesn’t demand, fallacy! A man knows when his woman is sleeping around with other men to meet her needs, most men only decide to keep mute for reasons, don’t get it twisted, but hardly will they marry you- that’s why you see a lot of pretty ladies complain; “after giving him my love, my body, my heart, and did everything for him, etc, he paid me back with heartbreak, God will punish him, blah, blah, blah” says who? Of course you don’t expect a man in his rightful senses to marry an unrepentant whore, do you? Would you welcome your own brother bringing home a playgirl as his would-be wife, be honest please?

There are zillions of decent and honorable things you can do as a single lady to at least meet your own financial needs without sleeping around with men or depending on one man to supply all your needs. Finally, cut your skirt according to your length. You are from a poor family, your parents earn below $3000 a month, but you want to look like Rihanna, wear the same clothe she wears, you want to live a similar life Beyonce, Genevieve and Tiwa Savage lives, and you want to dine in the costliest hotels and restaurants, and you are jobless or earning below $2000 a month. Now tell me sincerely, how is it possible to achieve this foolish goal without patronizing immoral lifestyle to meet the insatiable demands?

14.  Your Role Models Are Totally Strange And Bad! If you want to be a great woman tomorrow, start now to emulate great women- study their foot parts, their lifestyle, their ways and try to inculcate their lifestyle into yours. Stop looking up to music stars and fake celebrity ladies, etc as your only role model in life. What happened to looking up to women like- Ngozi Okonjoiweala, Oby Ezekwesili, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Sen. Dabiri, Sang Suu Kyi, Hilary Clinton, Michele Obama, etc? Stop glueing your eyes on fashion TV, Fashion One, Big Brother TV Show, E! etc, and start now to build interest in economy issues, current affairs, economy and business news, watch more of CNN, National Geographic channel, Channels TV, ESPN, Discovery World, Animal Planet, Aljazeera TV, Super Sports, etc, these are what men love to see women do cos only a handful of women show interest in these, and those few women are those ones that end up being great women in future. Movie Magic, Africa Magic will only inculcate bad habit, poor manner and laziness in you, please wake up before you end up single for life, which I pray not.

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